I'm A Warrior

i hung out with him all day. Watched him play Persona 4, ate food, fell asleep on his bed. He woke me up and told me he was going to take a shower. While he was gone, I sat and listened to his roommate who was on the phone with a guy friend talking about a girl. He was saying that the girl knew how the guy friend felt about her and has reciprocated, but i got the sense they weren't actually dating. She just wanted to be friends. i wanted to burst into Dillon's (the roommate) room, grab the phone, and tell his guy friend to run away. To not even try to be friends with this girl because he'd only get his heart ripped out and stomped on right in front of him. my eyes teared up and i realized - sitting in his room surrounded by his things, his smell, this place that used to make me so happy - i can't do this anymore. So i pulled my shoes on, slipped my sweatshirt over my head, threw my backpack over my shoulders, and waited. When Kyle came back, i gave him a proper goodbye and walked out of his life. i would like to be friends with him. But it hurts. i probably won't be gone from his life forever. But i'm done being the one making the effort. If he wants to see me, he knows how to get in touch with me. He knows i'm around.

i can't decide if i came to that decision to not put myself through such suffering because i'm not as strong as i used to be or if i just grew up. On one hand, this heartbreaking hit me a lot harder than the others and that points to me not being a strong as i used to be. But maybe it's not that. Maybe i'm stronger because even after all my shitty experiences with guys i still had enough balls to put my heart on the line. And stronger because i know where to draw the line, i know that the pain i would be putting myself through would not be worth it in the end. i'm a fucking warrior.

Something very coincidental happened tonight. We got chinese food for dinner. And when we opened our fortune cookies while sitting next to each other on his bed, mine was a pretty stupid fortune, but his said, "Stop searching forever. Happiness is right next to you." i laughed. What are the chances of that?

But anyway, i don't need a man. Relationships are always just doubt and disappointment. i've got awesome friends. Manda and Rachel really helped me out this entire last week, listening to me whine even though they probably could've told me this would happen from the start. But they knew i wouldn't listen. And so they were there to help me sweep up the pieces of my shattered heart, mostly with pizza and shots. What more could a girl ask for?

~*maria*~